When you meet someone, it is important to exchange basic
pleasantries before you start a serious conversation. Do you clam up and don’t
know what to talk about? Or do you offend people by talking about certain
topics that you shouldn’t?
Be it a person who you are meeting for the first time, a
work related exchange or an interaction with a close friend; remember to begin
with a few socially accepted dialogues. This way you will be safeguarded for future
communication.
Here are some pointers to get you started:
- Start with a simple “hello”, “how do you do?” or “how are you?” Inquire about the person’s well-being and health. This warms them and helps them open up to you.
- If you are meeting someone for the first time say “Nice to meet you” or “Pleased to make your acquaintance”. This shows politeness and courtesy.
- To break the ice with someone you just met, talk about general things like the weather. For example you could say “Beautiful day.” If you are talking on the phone, you could ask “How is the weather there?”
- Make the person comfortable with you by offering them a soft drink or hot beverage if they are at your residence. If you are meeting in a public place, suggest a place where you can get something to eat or drink. Food or drink is a good diversion and will help things loosen up.
For formal meetings and corporate set-ups/ interviews:
- Introduce yourself clearly and completely using your full name. Establishing your identity correctly is very important.
- Ask the person their name and address them by the same rather than using terms like “sir” or “madam”. This way you ascertain a better connection with them.
- Avoid using too many filler words like “er” and “like”. Confidence is important to win a conversation.
For informal conversations:
- Ask short and general questions about the person. Refrain from dwelling into personal lives.
- Hobbies and interests are always a good topic to start with if you don’t know what to talk with the person. Ask them what they like to do in their free time. This will also give you an idea about what the person is like.
- Ask for opinions and ideas on current affairs or daily events if you are aware about them yourself. This can get people talking with you with more enthusiasm especially if you don’t share common interests.
Some More Tips:
- Avoid casual terms like “wassup” and SMS lingo in formal situations.
- Don’t ask someone personal questions when you have just met them. Talk only generic topics.
- Maintain eye contact when you are talking with the person.
Don’t be nervous the next time. Be confident and go for it!
